My partner and I have been together for just over 2 years now and we decided a few months
ago to move in. It was something that we had been talking about for a while and were working out what it would look like and the details before we make it official. With Covid we moved in earlier than we had originally thought we would. I was spending most of my time at his place because I didn't want to be going back and forth between places and increase the risk of exposure. Since I was living with my sister I didn't have to be out by a certain date which made the process way less stressful. I was able to take a few boxes at a time and unpack those before getting more stuff. Moving in has had its ups and downs, especially with being in lockdown and being home and not out with friends and family as often. That definitely added different stresses that might not have been present had we not been stuck at home all the time.
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ago to move in. It was something that we had been talking about for a while and were working out what it would look like and the details before we make it official. With Covid we moved in earlier than we had originally thought we would. I was spending most of my time at his place because I didn't want to be going back and forth between places and increase the risk of exposure. Since I was living with my sister I didn't have to be out by a certain date which made the process way less stressful. I was able to take a few boxes at a time and unpack those before getting more stuff. Moving in has had its ups and downs, especially with being in lockdown and being home and not out with friends and family as often. That definitely added different stresses that might not have been present had we not been stuck at home all the time.
Before officially moving in we talked about all the big things. Marriage, kids, finances and other things that could potentially make or break things. I wanted to be sure that we were on similar pages with things. I do want kids eventually, that is something I won't compromise on so it was important to me to know that he wanted that as well. These conversations weren't easy to have and happened over many months. Especially talking about money. That was probably one of the hardest topics for us. We were both raised very differently when it comes to talking about money. My family was pretty open about it, while it was more of a taboo topic for my partner. Being able to have difficult conversations before moving in helped us know what we expected of each other and taught us how to have difficult conversations. I'm not saying we never argue or disagree on things, but we know that no topic is off the table and that sometimes it takes more then one conversation to work through things. The never go to bed angry advice that people give is one that I call BS on. There has been times where I need to just sleep on something and give myself that time to calm down and be able to think more rationally. I know if I hadn't walked away for a few minutes or gone to bed I would have said things that I would have later regretted.
Finding space for all my stuff, which lots of it is still at my parents house in Alberta, was fun for me. I love organizing and it allowed for both of us to go through our stuff and figure out what to keep and what could go. Combing 2 households meant that we have a number of duplicate items, like 2 crockpots. We did end up donating a bunch of stuff and got rid of a bunch of junk.
When my partner and I first started dating I had a bunch of people asking when we were moving in or why haven't we moved in yet. At that time we hadn't even been dating 6 months. I felt like I was doing something wrong not moving in right away. It took many conversations with a close friend to help me recognize that there was nothing wrong with me and that every relationship is different. For some people moving in right away works, while for others waiting however long is better. So don't let others make you feel like you are doing something wrong if you aren't on their timeline!
Living with my partner has been an adventure and taught me so much about myself and our relationship. I have learned so many of his little quirks and habits, as well as my own, that have made us laugh (sleep taping, seriously look it up. It sounds/looks ridiculous), but also led to arguments. In our 2 years together we have already been through so much, like 3 funerals in the first 6 months, that we felt confident that we could work through and weather any storm.
I hope you all have a wonderful month and remember to love yourself!
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